That was one thought that came to mind as I read Tim Challies’ helpful review of Mark and Grace Driscoll’s upcoming book, Real Marriage: the Truth About Sex, Friendship and Life Together. I know she’s a co-author, but reading Challies’ review made my heart go out to the woman. Three thoughts might be helpful in evaluating the book:
— The book is “mostly about sex”, Challies says. But because marriage is not mostly about sex, a book on marriage that spends a disproportionate amount of time on the subject should be suspect.
— The Driscolls seem to be saying that as long as a married couple are both comfortable with a sexual act that creates “oneness”, it doesn’t matter what that act is. But placing a homosexual act in a monogomous, opposite gender relationship does as little to make it heterosexual as placing an Easter bunny mascot in a Good Friday service makes it a part of the resurrection story. Just as there’s more to gender than body parts, so there is more to heterosexuality than a man and a woman. The Driscolls seem to have an impoverished view of biblical heterosexuality.
— Third, just as a problem in a couple’s sexual relationship is almost always symptomatic of a deeper malady within their marriage, so deviant teaching about sex within marriage is symptomatic of a much deeper, larger theological problem. It’s not coincidence that American polygamists are Mormons, or that conservative Muslim men marry eight-year-olds. So it should not be surprising that Mark Driscoll’s rather loose, culturally hip theology is producing a very loose, culturally hip perspective on sexuality.
I’m not questioning the Driscoll’s salvation. As Edmund Calamy [1600-1666] used to say, “A man may hold an error and yet not be an heritique.” But, as Ephesians 5:3 says, “sexual immorality and all impurity or covetousness must not even be named among you, as is proper among saints.” Mark Driscoll has had some very helpful things to say in the past, and even in this book, but from what Challies says about the book, it goes over the top. Which is why I plan on not reading the book when it comes out. Because placing sexual immorality within marriage and then referencing I Corinthians 10:23 doesn’t legitimize anything.