This TED talk has garnered lots of attention, partly because it’s just a good listen regardless of your personality and partly because introverts are on the march:
Cain makes good points about letting people be who they are, wherever they fall on the introvert/extrovert spectrum. But her only good reasons for this are because it makes people feel good about themselves and because it leads to more productive societies.
Christians need to understand, value and use personalities, their own as well as others’. Why? First of all because personality is part of God’s creation. God made personality and values it. So should we. Our personalities are part of who we are and when redeemed, they will be sanctified in life and glorified at death, continuing into heaven and all eternity. This understanding, by necessity, includes awareness of the reality of sin in our personality. Introverts may have different besetting social sins than extroverts (every personality tends to sin in a particular direction). We need the awareness of the light of the Word, the work of the Spirit, and the communion of the saints to help us grow in God-glorifying personality.
We also need to understand, value and use personality well because it blesses the church. As Cain points out, different points on the introvert/extrovert spectrum have different gifts. This is clear from Scripture: “Having gifts that differ according to the grace given to us, let us use them: if prophecy, in proportion to our faith; if service, in our serving; the one who teaches, in his teaching; the one who exhorts, in his exhortation; the one who contributes, in generosity; the one who leads, with zeal; the one who does acts of mercy, with cheerfulness.” (Romans 12:6-8) If we ignore personality, it harms the whole body.
Lastly, we need to understand, value and use personality well out of love for God and one another. Few things are as frustrating as being misunderstood at your most essential. Having care, thought and thankfulness for each others’ personalities is just another way of loving one another as we are called to, and above all glorifying and loving our God and Savior.